Unleashing Clarity
You are granted permission to not only feel what you’re feeling but express it.
And I highly recommend it. This is a business plan, for real.
Let me explain.
I noticed something powerful during a podcast interview with Bitter or Better podcast host Abby England. She did a beautiful job illuminating my divorce story in a way that I hope supports others. I’ll share it with you when it goes live!
*Look for The Bitter or Better Podcast by Abby England where you subscribe to podcasts.
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She asked me if there was any particular emotion that I avoided around my experience?
I couldn’t speak…….I let her question land.
Anger
Looking back as I relayed my story, I shared that it took me a year working with my deep dive coach to finally admit how angry I was. All along the way as I went through separation, selling the house, etc,, I leaned into being level headed, ‘nice’ and focused on our family during our separation and our mediation process.
Somehow, subconciously, I believed that it wasn’t ok for me to be angry about what had happened to me. It was certainly a pattern that I adopted during my marriage and much of my life that everyone else’s needs were more important than my own. So it makes sense now, that it felt awkward and yet brave to admit that I was angry for the betrayal I had experienced.
This experience is important to understand, we all push away emotions for all sorts of reasons. And it doesn’t serve us at all!!!
AT ALL
If you find yourself a bit cloudy about what’s next or experiencing generalized anxiety. If you feel mentally cloudy on next steps, if you are constantly feeling unsure; then there might be an advantage to being honest and expressing how you’re feeling. That might be all you need to do to access the clarity you’re after.
It’s natural to resist, give yourself a resource to tune in.
A Tool to implement
You can do this for yourself.
Let me give you 2 tools to support you here. You pick which is more you.
2 word check in. Mutually share with another friend or loved one a 2 word check in. 2 feeling words that describe how you’re feeling right now. Take some time to be honest with yourself and describe your why for a minute or two.
Journal it. Take some time with where you are right now. Start with the two word check in if it helps. Lean into just taking some time to be honest with how you’re feeling in this moment. Write until if feels complete.
Podcast Episode: CLICK HERE
Now, breathe through this moment. Let the energy of those emotions pass. What do you notice?
Now that you’ve literally ‘cleared the air’.....
What are 2-3 important steps you want to take next?
Why this is important? This is where grounded leadership begins
More intention, less reactive behavior
More capacity for others’ emotions--calmest energy in the room
Ablility to make decisions from a grounded, insightful space
More likely to honor your own well-being vs push yourself too hard
CLARITY this gives you an ability to think clearly, tap into your intuition and values and move forward powerfully. Yes all from processing emotions in a healthy way.
I truly believe as I honor my emotional experience, especially in the tough spaces, i am experiencing all these things above but also more joy, more ease and more insight
xoxo,
Diana
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