It’s ok if you hate this……

Written By Diana Murphy

……… “Calm Down!”

Oh, I would if I could, wouldn’t you?

Life just gave me a Master Class in managing emotional dysregulation in the last 2-3 weeks. I have been stepping into some decisions and expressing myself fully in some important and personal spaces. I can’t share more right now but I am so proud and so brave right now but wow, I have been jacked up in a way that is really uncomfortable.

Living in this country right now is enough to create dysregulation. But there is a special experience for leaders and business owners when they are shouldering all the responsibility for not only themselves and the roles they play at home but shouldering all of what is necessary in their businesses. And sometimes it is JUST TOO MUCH!

What on earth do we do in those moments? This can feel like throwing spaghetti on the wall, but I think that giving myself permission to try a few different things has given me insight on what works for me.
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BUT FIRST……..This is what works, don’t hate me…..I’ve stopped resisting. And it is SO uncomfortable.

The most powerful action or decision I can make when I’m overwhelmed with stressful emotion, is be with it. Yup I hate it too. When I stop fighting a very normal reaction in my body to stressful situations (truly too many to name) I am better for it. I’m talking full body flushes of anxiety, whew.
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I promise you it moves through and what is also beautiful is assurance and support comes in many forms when we stay with ourselves. (thank you friends, husband, mom and too many beautiful people to name)

I ask questions like:

  • What is here?

  • Is this an old story?

  • Can you visualize what is the good outcome that can happen in this situation?

  • What do you need, right now?

  • Can you be soft with yourself here?

So being with big emotion is one thing but sometimes (ok all the time) I need physical assistance as well. I’m walking more because damn, my frozen shoulder won’t let me lift weights or do yoga.

What supports you when you are moving through something tough. Let’s try a menu to remind you what you need right now.

  • Long walks

  • Nature walks or moments

  • Processing convos with your partner

  • Yoga

  • Active meditations ( do better with those that leader me)

  • A good cry (plan it if you have to).

  • Engage in relationships and convos with people that GET YOU

If you are growing a lot right now, if you’re sensitive to all that is going on in our country right now, if you are holding a lot of responsibility, plan some space for yourself to move through the emotions that come with this. Loosen up your calendar so you can move through this well. Give yourself space to be the leader that your life is asking you to be.

BECAUSE your wisdom, insight and clarity come by this very process described. I’m feeling a loosening of all my ideas, I’m writing more, I’m opening up my podcast for a special series, I’m inviting more people in.

Your life and your business may just need THIS process and reminder today to step into that next space that you’re craving. I’m cheering you on and you’ll be thankful for giving yourself permission to move through vs avoiding and resisting. I promise, it’s the best thing.

xoxo

Diana

P.S. I’m here for you in these 2 spaces. Check out what you need right now if you’d like to gather, new October dates will be announced next week.

Diana Murphy
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