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I?m working with a lot of amazing clients right now that are business owners and professionals with amazing jobs in the world, like you. What I see is that they are very productive and successful in their work lives BUT are putting themselves on the back burner in terms of self-care: eating, sleeping, exercising, enjoying life.
Sound familiar? No matter your walk of life many of us can identify with this scenario. It brings me back to a season in my life raising 2 high school boys while my husband?s job required a heavy international travel schedule. Been there for sure!
Intuitively, we know that putting our health and self-care on the back burner isn?t good for us but we don?t know how to do it differently. ?And frankly, do we really feel like we have a choice?
So why do we resist a shift towards taking care of ourselves? What are we afraid of? Why do we feel so dang guilty?
It is simply our thinking. We have a consistent battery of thoughts that our mind keeps thinking over and over. We are so comfortable with these thoughts and beliefs that we don?t even question the truth of them any more. And most of these thoughts create a lot of negative, crappy emotions. These thoughts most often create guilt and fear, which in turn prevent us from allowing us to keep ourselves as a priority.
The thoughts usually sound something like this:
?If I don?t take care of this no one will.?
?If I?m a good mother then I need to __________.?
?A good wife/and mother should make an amazing home made dinner every night.?
?My family would freak if I started working out before dinner time.?
?If I take time out for myself, that would be selfish and hurt my family.?
?I need have a really clean house.?
?I should ________________.?
Let me help you to turn it around. Make some steps towards self-care instead of guilt.
Try these steps:
- Recognize when you resist or put off taking care of yourself and ask yourself why? Take some time and really answer this question.
- Know that they are thoughts. These thoughts aren?t you, they are just in your mind.
- Try on a new thought like, ?I?m learning to take better care of myself.? Choose any thought that creates a hope or a better emotion than fear or guilt.
- Write 3 small steps of action after asking yourself: What would be wise for me to do if my goal is to live a healthier life and lose some weight.?
AND THE BEST QUESTION YET:
What if taking care of yourself first reaps some benefits for those around you? Fascinating?.
I?d love to hear from you. How does this strike you? What were your three steps? ?Leave a comment below.
Xoxo,
Diana
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